*** Could TopChretien Promote Marriage for Single Christians? ***

By asking this question, I know that I am going to stir up some very different reactions. However, my goal is not to create a controversy, and even less, disputes among us, but to approach this question with understanding. I think that certain singles really suffer, and I not only want to sympathize, but to help the best I can.

Neither do I have in mind a project to create a “Christian meeting.” Lots of websites for meetings between Christians already exist, but I don’t know if they function well or if they are effective. In fact, I am truly concerned, even burdened for Christian singles. I have the privilege to be married to a marvelous wife, and I have three terrific children. I would like many others to have the privilege of establishing a home and a family with the values of the Gospel.

I am sad to see Christians who get old without marrying and who cry over it. Some are really fantastic, and I tell myself what they lack is perhaps just getting out of their environment, sometimes a little closed, and having the possibility of being connected to other Christian singles. Now, who says connecting with others can mean the Internet!

I know that we can answer in a very spiritual way that this is God’s affair, and that they only have to pray and God will bless them and allow them to meet their soul mates. This is not wrong, but it doesn’t always happen like that! I believe God always has his role, but there is our role as well. We can also answer in a very dishonest way that Internet is horrible, and that we shouldn’t use the world’s methods. I believe that Internet is like a Swiss knife: one can use it for good or for evil; everything depends upon the objective we are pursuing. Besides, I would like to have the testimonies of Christians who are married today and who met on the Internet. This would help us in our understanding.

So then, what can we do? How can we help singles through Top Chretien? Do you have any ideas? What would you recommend to a single who is waiting in church and would like to be married? Thank you for your participation. Together, let’s make things happen!


  1. Jesus [Matt. 19:12] and Paul [1 Cor. 7:7-8] taught that there is a gift of celibacy, or staying single, and if you have the gift, be content with it in order to serve the kingdom of Christ.

    But a desire to marry is not an evil thing. It is a beautiful thing created by God to express His image on earth [Genesis 1:26-27]. A one flesh relationship is God’s way of spreading His image in the flesh [both male and female] from generation to generation.

    But godliness requires learning to be content until God acts on our behalf, even in light of our prayers. Godliness with contentment is great gain. [1 Tim. 6:6]. So the godly single must train themselves to be content as a single person until God brings them the gift they long for [Proverbs 18:22].

    Part of your prayers may include praying for a spouse. And as Paul says, if you have burning sexual desires, it is better to marry than fall into sexual immorality [1 Cor. 7:9].

    Being single is a great time to “wait upon the Lord.” Focus on serving Christ until He answers your prayers for a spouse. Focusing on self and the fulfilment of lustful desires will only lead to frustration. Focus on Christ, be content to be single for the moment [or life if it is God's will], look for active service to Christ in the church [and especially in mission trips where you might meet a godly single spouse outside your present context].

    But don’t fixate on your singleness. Fixing your eyes on Jesus, the author and finisher of your faith [Hebrews 12:2], let Christ help you endure the sufferings of seeming loneliness and legitimate longings to be with someone. Consider this spiritual life training in self-control so that when you do meet that special someone, you have the self-control through learning contentment to not dishonor the relationship with illegitimate sexual relations prior to marriage.

    Gary Hinchman

  2. zaheed says:

    I’m Zaheed hassan.(muslim)now I wann’a be christian so,what can i do ? Pl’z help me as soon as possible.cell no+8801713002171 in the name of the father of the son and the holy sprit ameen

    • TAYO JOHNSON says:

      wonderful, the bible said ‘and you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free’ thank God for His for His doing in making the people to know the truth so that He can save them, i praise God for what He has done in your life. the only thing you need to do is to accept Jesus as the author and finisher of your faith and as your saviour, confess your sins and renounse all occultic activities and desire to follow Him(Jesus) without looking back. Praise God.

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